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05 December 2010 @ 09:47 am
 My husband is 36 years old.  The man still wears some clothing he had in high school.  When he leaves for Japan every year, I used to clandestinely go through his socks and throw out all of the unacceptable ones - because he would just keep wearing them until he literally couldn't because of the holes.  He buys a vehicle, and then drives it until it's old enough and broken down enough that the upkeep is more hassle and expense than the car payment on something new.  In recent years, this pathological need to keep and/or use things until they are completely used up has eased up slightly - for instance, now I can go through his sock drawer when he is home!  

Until yesterday, he'd been using the half sized kid's chest of drawers he's had since he was five.  Four drawers about three quarters the size of a regular dresser drawer, maybe, and one of the drawers completely broke apart a few months ago, making it impossible to use.  He needed a new chest.  He's needed one for years, but this was really, really bad.  Last week, he kept complaining about how cluttery our bedroom is.  But when I looked around the room, the majority of the clutter involved piles of his folded clothes all over the floor.  Unfortunately, we can't really afford to buy anything right now.  On the other hand, if unemployment extensions remain in limbo, we really won't be able to buy anything anytime soon.  So, yesterday I stopped by a local furniture store that is family run and buys directly from the distributor, offering lower prices than most of the big chains.  I looked at all their chests of drawers and tried to figure one into our budget.  I found one marked down to clearance out for $180.  Ouch, even at a really good price.  But we cannot continue stacking his clothes on the floor.  So, I came home, and strategized how to convince my husband of this.

I started off by measuring the space his old dresser occupied.  Then I told him "I have a proposal for you."  

Immediately wary, he waited.  I went on, explaining very logically about the clutter and his clothing, and his broken childhood drawers.  He looked at me, then stared at his chest of drawers.  

"But, I drew a picture of the Millennium Falcon on the back of that when I was seven," he said.  

I put my hand on his shoulder and answered, "Yes, precisely."

He went on, not wanting to spend the money, etc, but I did, too, explaining how he cannot continue using the floor as his dresser drawers, and that chest is a broken down piece of old furniture that no longer functions, yet takes up space.  He didn't want to spend the money right now.  I countered with "Yes, but if not now, when will be able to?"  He had no good answer, and in the end, we went and picked up his new chest of drawers.  He took some of his Japan money for it, even though he is nervous about having enough this year, with the exchange rate.

Now, of course, he is very pleased with just how much he is able to fit in it, and how un-cluttery our bedroom suddenly is.  Amazing, when you have six full sized drawers to put things into, more than doubling his previous space.

My husband is 36 years old, and this is the first time in his life that he has ever used a full sized, adult chest of drawers.  Sometimes his need to hang on to the past is annoying, and other times it is endearingly amusing.
Queen of the Skiesqueenoftheskies on December 5th, 2010 06:48 pm (UTC)
Do you think it's a guy thing? Or that it's just something inherent in your husband?
rhienellethrhienelleth on December 5th, 2010 06:59 pm (UTC)
Oh, I think it's a him thing. We have plenty of guy friends not like that, but he's very...well, traditional. He loved his childhood, and he wants to hang on to those memories and keep them alive, which is lovely. He also abhors wasting money, and so holds onto anything that might continue to be useful. :)
-peartreealley on December 5th, 2010 09:26 pm (UTC)
It's not a guy thing. I'm the same way XD
patron saint of neglected female charactersrose_griffes on December 5th, 2010 06:49 pm (UTC)

I'm glad he's pleased with the new purchase.
rhienellethrhienelleth on December 5th, 2010 07:02 pm (UTC)
He is. :) It's convincing his a change is needed that's often the difficult part. Once he goes with something, though, he is generally very pleased about it.
Fatemafatema on December 6th, 2010 08:00 am (UTC)
That is very endearing. Thank you for sharing!
indie: Bad Santaindiefic on December 6th, 2010 03:20 pm (UTC)
I put my hand on his shoulder and answered, "Yes, precisely."

LOL! Oh, I had a similar conversation with my husband about his miniature gaming terrain ...